If you would have told me, that one day I would start a blog and publish a book; all around the same time I would become a mother, I would have laughed in your face. No seriously though. I’m still in shock that I can officially call myself a writer. With all the book PR I’ve done lately I’ve gotten asked a lot, “You work full time, have two kids and a blog. When did you find the time to write a book?” Well, I want to tell you.
It was a bright and hot summer day. I was running on the street in our neighbor when it hit me. I was overwhelmed with this idea of sharing my journey to motherhood. At the time, I didn’t know what it would look like, all I knew was that other women needed to hear about my fear of motherhood and my experience of a miscarriage.
That night after my run, I sat down at my computer and started typing. I had written each story of my son’s birth already, but I knew that was only part of my story. I need to write about everything that led to those two precious moments in my life.
Also during that night, I wrote my outline. I had my birthing stories. I knew, even as painful as it would be for me, I needed to write about my miscarriage. Ok, there are three chapters and counting. I had to decide how and where I would begin with this story.
I knew I first needed to write about my relationship with Thomas. We spent eight years building our love and life before we had kids. It is the foundation of our family and needed to be included as the foundation of this story.
After an outline was created, I started to write each chapter. Now here is the magic sauce and the secret to writing a book. Are you ready? Write this down. I wrote all the time. Ok enough said. I’m done with this post. But how did I make the time to write a book? That’s really what you want to know, right?
Every night it was Thomas’s turn to put the kids to bed, I pulled out my laptop and wrote. I wrote at the airport and on plane rides. There was one conference in Florida that after the conference ended each day, I went out to the pool with my laptop and wrote as I enjoyed a tropical inspired cocktail.
It took me about a year to write the book and then I took about two months to edit it. I gathered all my mama bear bravery and had a slue of well-read mamas read it and give me feedback. Yes, I was terrified to have something else read my work.
After my round of mommy posse feedback was completed, I hired an editor and graphic designer and honestly thought the book would be ready to publish in six months. I was so wrong. The editing process; it took a lot longer than I expected.
Writing a book is like anything else I try to accomplish, I decided it was something I wanted to do. I was motivated and energized by the thought of writing a book and that’s why I wrote all the time. It’s like anything else in life if it is something you truly want you will find a way to make it happen.
Even if it takes a lot longer than you expect.