If you read my 3 Ways I Dealt With Loss, then you know Thomas and I lost our good friend at the beginning of this year. A few weeks ago I heard Thomas playing this playlist that we played a lot around the time we lost our friend. When I heard Jealous by Labrinth my heart sank. After that it was sad song after sad song. I marched right into the bedroom and asked Thomas why he was playing this sad music. I told him that this music made me sad and that it’s probably making him sad too. Let’s play that Justin Timberlake song from Trolls. I love that song…can’t stop the feeling, feel it in my body. Oh sorry. I got lost.
While you can’t stop the feeling whether that be sad or not you can stop doing things that get you into a sad or negative mind set. Here are 3 things you can do to in order to stop feeling sad and stop feeding into the sadness.
1. Stop playing sad music and watching sad videos.
One day Thomas was just off. I didn’t say anything right away, mainly because we were occupied by being parents. While we were fixing dinner he was telling me about all these sad YouTube videos he had watched that day. I looked at him and said, “Why are you watching all this sad shit?” Unknowingly watching all that sadness had put him in a mood. His mood was not only impacting him, but also all of us. Want to change your attitude? Stop watching and listing to sad shit…right now.
2. Think of three things you are grateful for.
Think of the things that are not obvious, most of us are grateful for our family, friends, home, job, etc. Dig a little deeper. Maybe you’re grateful for a skillset that you have, like shuffling cards. I’m really good at shuffling cards and I like to impress people with my card shuffling capabilities. I know it sounds kooky, but honestly you can’t be mad or sad when you are grateful. It will honestly change your mood, even if just a little.
Did you know, each time you smile you brain has a reaction? The act of smiling activates neural transmitters in your brain that makes your body react with pleasure. It’s true. The feel good neurotransmitters dopamine, endorphins and serotonin are all released when a smile flashes across your face. You know that Charlie Chapman song, Smile Though Your Heart is Breaking? There is some honest truth to that. Smile even when you’re sad or mad and you will start to feel a little bit better. You may feel like an idiot at first but if it helps you to not feel quite so upset isn’t it worth it?
I hope this three little tips help you not feed into the sadness. Hopefully it can help you just tone your sad about something you’ve seen online or when you’re about to lose it because you have to wipe that damn high chair for the fifth time that day. Wishing you all the smiles in the world today. This is a crazy world full of anger and sadness and it is also filled with love and happiness. I wish you all the happiest of days today.